My wife is convinced that she needs a little time to get her beauty on in the morning. One of the (many) reasons I chose her 22 years ago, and would choose her again today, is that she looks hot with or without any special fixin’ up. She, on the other hand, feels like she looks a little Medusa-like in the morning.
I have always thought that she looks great even before she gets her ‘do working, but I guess I never made it clear until recently. One Saturday morning as she was standing at the stove in her terry cloth bath robe I told her how beautiful she was. She was honestly surprised to hear that and said “looking like this? With my hair all big like this?” I told her that I absolutely loved her bed-head look because it reminds me of the fun we have messing it up.
I know that many of our ladies feel self conscious about how they look. Isn’t it a part of our lovin’ job description to consistently remind them that we are in love with her, whether or not she is beautiful in her eyes. She needs to know she is a beautiful sight in her husband’s eyes. In fact, to tell her that she is looking her best before the makeup, hairspray and fancy clothes go on is to begin to scratch the surface of what she really needs to hear and know from you: That her husband is irretrievably in love with her as a person.
See, our wives are very aware of the effects of time, babies and gravity on their appearance. She is also very aware that her man is a visual creature. Add to the mix a little insecurity generated by the media’s images of “perfect women” and you can bet that she thinks her man loves her less when she doesn’t look her best. This is why my wife was so surprised when I told her how hot I got looking at her bed head beauty. It was another way for me to remind her that I am still intrigued by her and that I am invested in her long-term.
Undoubtably our women like to hear compliments about how good they look, and we all need to keep those appearance compliments flowing. But the kind of compliments that will pay real dividends (like when you forget her birthday) are those character compliments that you dole out on a regular basis. Remind her, daily, of what a great woman she is and tell her how you need what only she has.
If this is new to you- here is a place to look for some examples: in the Bible, in Proverbs chapter 31. You might also look at Galations 5:22 where Love, loy, peace, patience, kindness,gentleness, and self-control are mentioned. Certainly most of these words apply to her. I know they apply to my wife. After all, she puts up with me.
Tell her you love her. Tell her what you love about her. Tell her your love is deeper than skin. Tell her all the time.
Stumble It!